我曾经教过的一个美国本科生现在在中国工作，他出于自己的观察和思考写下了这些建议，希望我能让更多的中国青年看到。我把它逐字逐句翻译成了中文放在了自己的博客上，但很希望借助您的影响让更多的人看到它，我们中国的青年太需要和别人交流了。出于他自己在中国的所见所闻所感，这位美国青年写道："近来发生的一切并不能带给中国尊敬或荣耀。相反地，在外人眼里，这些行为使中国看上去既不开化又粗鲁无礼（uncivilized and brutish）。我想帮助我的中国朋友，尤其是那些旅居海外的人，帮助他们学习如何恰当的处理西方的政治争议，这样他们就能更好的让外人了解他们的祖国，修补中国的国际形象。。。衷心祝愿北京奥运会成功！"
   在建议开始之前，他说"我有些担心我所写的东西有点儿'训导'的味道"（ I'm a little concerned that what I wrote might seem patronizing. ）
  下面就是他的详细建议，共五段十八条：

一、如果你看到西方媒体的反华失实报道：
  1、DO write a polite letter to the editor to point out the problem, giving a logical argument to support your position. （Letters to the editor are a respectable, civilized way to express your opinion—and you can get it published for free）
  2、DO make a calm, informative video that explains why a photograph or media clip is wrong or misleading. （People are willing to listen to and learn from calm, reasonable videos）
  3、DON'T write an angry, irrational protest letter with an argument based upon ad hominem attacks and Communist political mantras.（If you write an angry letter, your opinion will not be respected. Ad hominem attacks (irrelevant criticism of a person's character) will be rejected as desperate. Communist language is very easy to spot, and people will disregard you if they think you are simply repeating government propaganda.）
  4、DON'T make a video that makes angry, illogical statements and tells the Western viewer he is an idiot. （It is difficult to accept correction from a person who insults you, especially if he does it illogically. This video on YouTube is a perfect example of what NOT to do: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9QNKB34cJo. It insults the viewer and makes unsupported and illogical claims, such as saying the CIA still provides support to the Dalai Lama.）
  5、DON'T call for bans or violent attacks against publications or broadcasters who make unfair statements. （It is very important to remember that since Western media are not controlled by the government, their errors and biases should not be taken so seriously. Freedom of speech even covers speech that is unfair or wrong; this is an important protection against government tyranny.）

二. 如果一个外国人和你在藏藏问题上意见不一致：
  6、DO respect the fact that the person's culture is different, and that he views political and moral issues differently. （For example,Americans often have a positive view of "independence" movements because they think of all the good things that came from American independence. Also, people from some countries are more suspicious of government, especially authoritarian governments like the central government of China）
  7、DO realize that since he didn't grow up in China, he has access to different information about Tibet, some of which is more accurate than what you learned in China. （Chinese people have the advantage of having better opportunities to study and experience Tibet. Foreigners have the advantage of learning about Tibet without the interference of Chinese government propaganda, censorship, and deceit.）
  8、DO have a friendly debate based on facts and logic.（Have a little debate. Don't get emotional. Hopefully you will both learn something.）
  9、DO have a friendly debate based on facts and logic. （The person is probably not wrong about everything regarding Tibet, and it is more polite to gently correct than to tell him that he is ignorant.）
  10、DON'T make absolute statements that you cannot readily support.（"Tibet was, is and always will be a part of China" is not a complete argument. You must provide convincing historical evidence of the ties between Tibet and China.）
 
三、如果一个中国人和你在藏藏问题上有分歧
  11、DO talk about your differences of opinion respectfully and learn why some people disagree with the official Chinese position. （Once again, I think it is best to try to learn from someone with different opinions.）
  12、DON'T denounce the person as a "traitor" and threaten him or his family with violence. （Disagreeing with the Chinese government is different from betraying China. Violence or threats of violence are never excusable, and they make China seem nasty and uncivilized. I was appalled at the way Grace Wang at Duke was treated by her fellow Chinese citizens.）

四、如果抗议者干扰了奥运火炬传递
  13、DO express your dismay that a small number of people have decided to disrupt the torch relay for political purposes. （You will probably find many people who are also disappointed that the Olympics have become so political—but many people also think that the Chinese government deserves to be embarrassed.） 
  14、DO ask your friends if they think these disruptions are acceptable,and have a respectful discussion if your opinions differ.Since the Olympics have already become so political, the attacks on the torch provide a good starting point to discuss what the limits to this politicization should be.
  15、DON'T behave as though disrupting the Olympic torch relay is an unforgivable sin on the part of an entire city or nation.（The fact that the torch relay was disrupted in Paris and San Francisco doesn't mean that most French or most Americans are anti-China. Most of them don't really care. You can't blame the French or American governments, either, without serious evidence.）
  16、DON'T try to "punish" foreign companies with boycotts and violent mobs.Not only is wrong to try to "punish" a country for an insult made by some of its citizens, boycotting Carrefour will not hurt Carrefour much and will mostly hurt Carrefour's Chinese employees, and the Chinese companies whose products are sold at Carrefour. Forming violent mobs at Carrefour makes China look really backward and stupid.

五、如果某人侮辱了"中国"或"中国人民"
  17、DO think carefully about whether the person means "the Chinese central government" when he says "China" or "the Chinese." （It is very common to say "China" when speaking about the Chinese government, just like one would say "the US" when talking about the US government. Furthermore, when Westerners criticize China's government they are not blaming all Chinese; they realize that the Chinese people do not choose China's political leaders.）
  18、DON'T feel like you need to respond if the person frequently makes outrageous statements on other topics. （People like Jack Cafferty, Lou Dobbs and Bill O'Reilly are paid to be provocative. They say silly, offensive things all the time because more people will watch them. So when they say something silly and offensive about China, the best response is to roll your eyes, not to call for severe punishment.Americans think it's ridiculous how sensitive the Chinese are about one man saying some dumb things about China on TV.）