放假,买了票坐车回她的家——从高中便在外地的城市读书,到大学毕业再到工作,已经离开那个家10年,养成了和那个属于她的家的格格不入的生活习惯。以往每次回去,总会因为这些习惯的不同和她发生争执,于是后来开始说,那是她的家。

因为是她的家,所以我学会说服自己,在她的家里,按照她的习惯生活。

当然,她是我妈。

其实原本可以买机票的,提早买,不比卧铺贵多少,后来想想,还是选择了十几个小时的火车,不想见面就听她唠叨机票太贵,要学会过日子,飞机不安全,等等。

她定然是如此期待我们的见’面:房间里添了新床单,去那家老店买了我爱吃的米糕,她自己做了玫瑰排骨……每一件事都想让我立刻知道,絮叨得混乱急切。

我配合她的喜悦,说挺好挺好,说的时候嘴巴里塞满她买的米糕——那是我小时候的最爱。但是她不知道,现在我已经不太喜欢这些甜腻的食品,主要原因是会迅速长胖,尤其她做的玫瑰排骨,肥肉多,糖也多。但回到她的家,豁出去了,因为吃东西是她最爱看到的。



丰盛的接风饭吃过,因为太饱几乎动不了,于是回屋朝床上一躺。

新床单有点花哨,并且,质地很差,一定是买了便宜的……正想着,她收拾完碗筷,过来坐在床边跟我说话,开口就说这床单,脸上带着小得意。床单是对面邻居家大姐倒腾来的,进价呢,还不到30块钱,多划算。

我笑,对,挺好——如果是以前,一定会找出理由来教导她不要贪便宜,钱就是赚来花的。现在,我不了,我学乖了,赞同她生活要节俭。我连给她的衣服都学会撕去原来的价格签,贴上便宜许多的——不是想骗她,是为了让她安心。

她坐在我床边家长里短地和我絮叨片刻,看我懒洋洋的表情,说你睡会儿吧,坐车累。于是我就睡了,一直睡到黄昏她喊我起来吃晚饭。

如我所料,晚饭依然丰盛,但大多是中午的剩菜,只添了一个青菜。

剩菜,她是向来合不得扔的,以前回来跟她争,教育她吃剩菜不健康,但争的结果是她不再给我吃剩菜了,但是会自己吃——不如不争。

于是虽然不饿,却还是努力大口小口地力争把剩菜消灭掉,以免她再吃第三顿。好在她节俭,若不是我回来,平时是不会把菜做得那么多的。

她散过步后,开始看京剧,亮着客厅里一个小灯。我对这些咿咿呀呀的声音不感兴趣,但还是认真地坐在旁边陪她看了一会儿,并且跟她聊了聊李胜素和张火丁,聊了聊《锁麟囊》和《失街亭》——为了她,我恶补的。

她不会看太久,多年的习惯是9点前必定上床休息。

果然,9点不到,她说,不早了,睡吧。

我立刻响应,好的,睡觉。然后简单洗漱回房间。

依然是一个好睡眠,即使有过那样冗长的午睡。

很奇怪,这些年外面的窝儿越来越安逸,两年前,我在广州买了小房子,装修得无比温馨,但睡眠一直不太好,可是只要同到她的家,回到她铺的床上,总是能睡得沉实香甜,甚至连梦都不做。所以累的时候,我喜欢回她的家。

住上三五日,陪她出去逛逛街是难免的。退休后,她尤其爱逛超市,兴趣在各种优惠打折的商品。终于买到便宜货品,看她挑好,仔细放进车子里。我拿眼睛瞄瞄旁边那些诱惑我的物品,一咬牙,忍住了,不买。跟着她,我要自己坚持一个观点:只买便宜的,不买想买的。

就这样拎着一堆打折的东西很有成就地回了家,一件件朝外拿,赞她买得好。结果,她再次把其中一部分装进一个袋子里,说,这些你带着。

广州有的卖,我小声说。广州卖得贵,她很坚持,你刚买了房子,还着房贷呢,不省怎么行?

我灵机一动,广州的超市也打折,比这儿打得还厉害。

真的?她不太相信。

真的,广州的超市更大,超市越大东西越便宜。我很确定。

她想了想,自语,倒也是,不拿不拿吧。这可够家里用两年了……

我松口气。以前她给,我推,最后两个人都会急,这样多好,皆大欢喜。

就这样在她的家里气氛融洽地过完假期,明显看到镜子里的小脸圆了一小圈,幸好假期不长,该走了。

临行前,她一样样帮我检查了行李,在确认没有遗漏后,她从兜里掏出一把钱来掖进我行李箱的底层。

“妈,我不要。”

她果断地说:“拿着,穷家富路。”

但这次我有新的理由,开玩笑地说:“很快的,晚上眼睛一闭,早上一睁,就到了。”

她扑哧一笑,然后口气又认真起来:“那也不行,再说,万一你在火车上饿了呢?”

我不同她争了,反正每次也争不过她,“那我可拿着了,刚好看中一个包,回去买。”

她警惕起来:“买个包也花那么多钱,不行啊,要学会过日子,你还还着房贷呢!”

我哈哈大笑,她立刻明白我在逗她,白我一眼:“死丫头。”

然后,我拎着行李,装着她给的厚厚的钱,离开了她的家。不知道那些厚厚的钱是她买了多少便宜的打折物品一分分省下的,给我的时候,却是那样豪气舍得,并且一次次地给,不容我推拒。而正是因为长大后看懂了生性节俭的她对我的舍得,才学会了不再和她抗争,学会了适应,学会了顺从,学会了“撒谎”,学会了乖,学会了在她的身边放低我的心性云飞翔——在她的家里。

没错,那是她的家。而她,是我的家。

posted @ 2012-05-02 21:27 klmt 阅读(115) | 评论 (2)编辑 收藏
帮一个人恢复快乐的心情自己也很HAPPY.
posted @ 2012-05-02 20:59 klmt 阅读(63) | 评论 (0)编辑 收藏

Are you from London i?


very Interesting............. .......... ...

Once a man went to a Veterinary Doctor and said:

Doctor I have come on vacation for a month so that I can get myself treated fully within this period..

Doctor:
I think you should go to the Doctor opposite to my clinic, see that board.
Man:
No, Doctor, I have come to you only
Doctor:
But, gentleman I am a Veterinary Doctor. I am an animal specialist. I do not treat human beings.
Man:
I know  very well Doctor   and that is why I have come to you only...
Doctor:
I can not, because you speak like me, think like me, talk like me which means you are a human being and not an animal.
Man:
I know I am a human but listen to my complaints first:
Doctor:
OK. Tell me.
Man:

I sleep like a dog thinking about my work load whole night.


I get up in the morning like a horse.
I go to work running like a deer
I work all the day like a donkey
I run around for 11 months like a bull without any holiday.
I wag my tail in front of all my bosses

I play with my children like a monkey if I get time.

I am like a rabbit before my wife

Doctor: Are you from London? 
Man: Yes

Doctor: Instead of telling this long history you should have told me
in the beginning itself that you are
From London.  Come man, no one
can treat you better than me...

posted @ 2008-06-19 21:50 klmt 阅读(42) | 评论 (0)编辑 收藏
   
  没有一技之长的“幼婴型”

  在科学与技术日益专门化的今天,一个人要想成为“全才”,除非是具有非常的天赋和过人的勤奋,否则,是难以做到的。因此,既非“能才”又无一技之长者往往成为被首先考虑下岗的人选。

  缺乏团队精神的“鲨鱼型”

  随着社会分工的细化,一项工作往往只有在群体的共同协作下,才可能高效率地圆满完成。因此倘若个人不善于协作,没有团队精神,结果个体只能被团队抛弃。

  顽固不化的“贝壳型”

  社会的剧变决定了社会中的人已不可能在变化着的社会环境中永远固定地扮演某一种不变的社会角色。那些固步自封、不思进取的“贝壳型”的人最终会在激烈的竞争中逐渐失掉优势,以至淘汰出局。

  循规蹈矩的“机器型”

  时至今日,具有开拓、创新能力的人才愈来愈受到用人单位的青睐。发个指令,按钮才会动一动的“机器型”人才很难适应未来瞬息万变的社会环境,会更多地被挤进失业者的行列。

  只说不做的“喇叭型”

  有些人似乎满腹经纶,似乎他只要一说,一切都在变。事实上,一切都没变。显而易见,这些“言语的巨人,行动的侏儒”同那些“少说多做”的实干家相比,在竞争中更容易失去一切。

  办事效率低下的“乌龟型”

  默默无闻,看似忠实可靠的“乌龟”确实能唤起人们的同情心。然而,在已经出现的高节奏、高效率的残酷市场竞争中,那些动作迟缓,办事效率低下的“乌龟型”人才,将毫无疑问地会被激烈的竞争大潮所淹没。

posted @ 2008-06-11 21:50 klmt 阅读(38) | 评论 (0)编辑 收藏
   考试又一次失败了。是我不够努力?我几乎都放弃了自己看电视的时间,放弃了与朋友们开怀畅谈的那份悠闲。是我运气太差?为什么每次都差一点点。尽管我心中时刻铭记机会是给有准备的头脑。是老师卡的太严?为什么还是有过关的同学。是我考试准备不充分?我害怕考试时拉肚子,强忍住口渴,早上起来只喝了几口水以解口干之苦。宁可多花点钱走远一点吃干净的饭菜。

   为什么我的不得志接踵而来,一次次的考试已经让我的精力极度疲惫,可是一次次的付出又换来什么结果?总是另我很失望。以前还总是绷着一根筋,一定要过,不管千山万水,不管天灾人祸,只要心中有目标,一定就要去做。可是这次的考试确实对我打击太大了,我已经失去了再考的信心,甚至出现了一种前所未有的恐慌。从小到大也经历了不少考试,面试。我都是信心百倍的进入考场,不管结果如何尽力去发挥。但是这一次彻底摧毁了我的热情。一次次的辛苦就这样白费了。我的心在流泪,我想这对我内心的打击不亚于一个即将出世的孩子突然夭折了的痛苦。

    我都老大不小了,还在埋头苦读,这让妈妈看到心里都不是滋味,劝我如果考试没用就不要辛苦了吧,可我咬咬牙,我不能放弃,就这样一直到现在还是没有结局。我都不愿意跟别人提起这件事,很丢人,好几次了都过不了,人家该怀疑我的水平了。可是谁又能知道这个考试的难度那么高,过关率低到千分之几。我很失望,尽管心中有了其他的打算,可还是很不甘心。钱浪费了,时间也搭上了,甚至在别人的蔑视中悄悄学习,结果呢,确实这样的失败。我真的不知道说什么好了。

   我知道如果想学习时间还是有的,就担心我是否有足够的毅力能坚持下来。休息几天,调整好心情吧,因为我还有更重要的事情去做。机会是不等人的,我错过了前面的路,那么后面的一定要好好把握。我心里明白人跟人不能比,人比人气死人,事实的确是这样。我的朋友中有凭自己真本事考研的,有凭关系谋到一份像样的工作的,还有以前不如我,可是现在工作比我好的。每个人都有自己的位置,如果要学习现在还不晚,只是费劲一些。坚持吧,继续努力!

posted @ 2008-06-07 15:51 klmt 阅读(55) | 评论 (3)编辑 收藏
Everytime,when we complain about how unfortunate we are while we always  neglect why we are failure.That is the main point someone will never success.

In fact, success will come around you as soon as you get into some good habits.you can take some tips in the following.

Firstly,careful plan can help you definite your aim. once you got a detailed
plan, you can follow them then to implement them in a more fluent way.

Secondly, careful plan can avoid potential mistakes in the future.When you making a detailed plan, it must take long time to considering some accidents or defects,so you can try to avoid some blind actions in advance.

Thirdly,careful plan can assist you to improve your efficiency.That is an obvious result. with all the careful plans previous, you can have clear idea what to do in each step,thus can bring you great efficiency to escape some unnecessary time.

In short,Everyone can success if you have clear mind to make some previous thoughtful plans.
posted @ 2008-05-20 17:43 klmt 阅读(165) | 评论 (2)编辑 收藏
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
So love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who
don't.
Believe everything happens for a reason.. If you
get a second chance, grab it with both hands.  If it
changes your life, let it.  Nobody said life would be easy,
they just promised it would be worth it.



Friends are like balloons; once you let them go,
you can't get them back.
posted @ 2008-05-19 22:44 klmt 阅读(23) | 评论 (0)编辑 收藏

A tribute to all mothers.

Whisper a prayer for one even if you think yours deserves none.

Good day


Both men & women, sons & daughters -  need to read this.


                            BEING A MOTHER...


After 17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a
movie. She  said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to
spend some time with you.'

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been alone for 20
years, but the demands of my work and my two boys had made it possible to visit her only
occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?

My mother is
the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise
invitation, is a sign of bad news.

'I thought it would b e pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded. 'Just the two
of us.'

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.'

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived
at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in
the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate
her last birthday on November 19th.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going
to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into that new white van.
'They can't wait to hearabout our date'.

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my
arm as if she
were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could
only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting
there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read
the menu when you were small,' she said.

'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing extraordinary but catching up
on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let
me inviteyou.' I agreed.

'How was your dinner date ?' asked my wife when I got home.

'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I
didn't have a chance to do anything for
her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same
place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't
sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the
other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.'

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our
loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family.
Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other
time.'

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby....
Somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is  history.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct. Somebody never took a three-year-
old shopping.

Somebody
said being a mother is boring ... somebody never rode in a car driven by a
   teenager with a driver's permit.
Somebody said if you're a'good' mother, your child will 'turn out good'.... Somebody
   thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother.... somebody never helped a
   fourth grader with his math.
Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first .... Somebody
   doesn't have two children.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.... somebody never
   watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of  kindergarten ... or on a plane
   headed for military 'boot camp.'
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married....somebody doesn't
   know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's
heartstrings.
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home....somebody never had
   grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her.... Somebody
  isn't a mother.

I especially agree that it is about appreciating the people in your life.  Your mother is
not the only one who loves you and sacrifices for you.  I am so grateful that our children
express their love to Mom and Dad! 
posted @ 2008-05-15 21:39 klmt 阅读(48) | 评论 (0)编辑 收藏
     最近的小日子过得颇为平淡,炒了老板鱿鱼,家里蹲ING。开始还悠哉游哉,逛逛街,上上网,聊聊天。可是好景不长自己就像泄了气的皮球,整天无精打采,蒙头睡懒觉,好在没有失眠的习惯,晚上不至于受罪。白天坐在电脑前会发一阵呆,甚至时不时还冲着辛苦挣钱的老公发发脾气,我这是怎么了?还是原来那个一心求上劲的我吗?谴责自己。
     其实怪来怪去都怪自己,当初人家学习的时候自己疯玩,现在好了,人家得意地抱着铁饭碗,我却不得不在各类招聘信息上寻找能干的工作。错过了好多机会,自己吃苦的时候到了。
     现在的我有点失落,想想曾经也奋斗过,努力过,满足过。
     22岁,雄心勃勃参加过BEC考试,没想到能力不够,终究没能通过考试。不过那一阵疯狂的听力练习,给了我一点自信。
     23岁,第一次来到南方-宁波,喜欢上了那里的小桥,碧水。怀揣着当时还算有点含金量的4,6级证,找到了一份还算不错的工作,就是有点远。求知的欲望充斥着我,每天很用功的跟着经理学习外贸必备知识,也很虚心地耐心求教,好在经理也是外地人,对我们的疑问一一给予解答,那段时间我真地学到了很多东西,感谢经理的无私授教,当然用心地付出也换来了我的第一笔存款,渐渐地对于那些常规业务操作已经游刃有余了。公司来了国外客户,我也有份参与洽谈,有时还会陪客户一起用餐,当然也能分享到他们异国的故事。
     24岁,尝试参加上海口译资格考试(中级),又一次失败,分析了原因:工作太累,没有用心投入复习,走马观花般地扫视教材,肯定不会PASS咯。告诉自己不要泄气,下次再考,可是没有坚持下来,公司的业务越来越忙,只想到赚钱了,根本没有把学习重视起来。有时候就是这样,鱼和熊掌不能兼得,捞了这头,丢了那头。
     25岁,重心全放在了工作上,国内展会不断,偶尔也去香港参加过1。2次展会。大巴,火车,飞机 感觉就这样匆匆在旅途中度过了。年底由于comission的问题跟老板谈不妥,辞职了。由于感情的问题还没有归宿,加之爸妈就我这么一个宝贝,坚决让我回老家,左右思量,终于搭上了北上的火车,连同行李一并托运回家。就着样,我又回到了原点,心想要不是这次开开眼界我可能永远都不会走出这个地方了。
    26岁,眼看自己年纪也不小了,爸妈开始着急帮我张罗对象了,相亲的事也不下十例,最终寻到了我现在的老公,当时有点一见钟情的感觉,第一次见面脸就红扑扑的,心想有戏,果然如愿了^_^ 我们俩都是成年人了,考虑事情比较稳妥,婚礼办的很顺利。
我生命中的一件大事圆满完成。
    27岁,作为一个少儿英语教师,不太满意提供的薪水,再者新鲜劲一过就大失所望,所以就家里蹲了。把身体养好了,准备要宝宝,这是我的又一个愿望。
     希望好运再次降临,有机会我会牢牢抓住的。O耶!

posted @ 2008-05-07 13:03 klmt 阅读(55) | 评论 (2)编辑 收藏
During the holiday, I collected some picturs. They are wonderful and they are created by clever human.
just share with me.










posted @ 2008-05-04 22:04 klmt 阅读(43) | 评论 (0)编辑 收藏