With the rapid development of our modern society, we seem to be more and more money-oriented. Thus, it is understandable that our friendship is increasingly challenged by the ever-growing disparity in the individual degrees of financial comfort. So, will financial disparity affect friendship?
Some people think that it will, since money is the basis of everyday life while others hold the view that true friendship can last forever without being interfered by some outer factors such as financial disparity. As to me myself, I quite agree with the latter opinion that friendship can withstand financial disparity.
On one hand, true friendship is not based on money. Friendship should be an in-depth relationship combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and intimacy. Real friends are those who can share all our sorrows and double all our joys. When we make friends, we don’t care whether he is rich or not. Instead, what we think more of is whether he is a suitable person to whom we can confide. Thus, we emphasize on the interpersonal exchanges by putting aside the financial factors.
On the other hand, money can not be used as criteria to judge an individual and when we make friends, we pay more attention to her character. Some people may say that money can be a sign of success. However, I don’t quite agree with the view. Money can be inherited, earned through some ignominious ways such as cheating while one’s good character can only be built gradually through good education and favorable influence. As an old Chinese proverb goes: “ One who stays near vermilion gets stained red, and one who stays near ink gets stained black.” There is much truth in it, because one would easily takes on the attributes of one's associates. Then, we make friends carefully, making sure that the other person has a pleasant character. And therefore, compared with the pleasant character when making friends, the financial disparity means nothing.
To sum up, friend is someone who is always willingly lending you a helping hand when you are in need of assistance. She would cheer you up with her encouraging eyes and smiling faces when you are in low spirits. Thus, friendship is something spiritual and has nothing to do with money. So, how can financial disparity affect friendship?
posted on 2007-05-06 14:03
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